11 Maerua cafra
Number: 65564.14.
Series: Silver series of Silver series. Series: Hydrogen, Carbon, Silicon, Iron series; emphasis on Iron series.
Clades: Cucurbitaceae; Cucurbitales; Fabidae; Fabanae; Angiospermae.
Clades: Capparaceae; Brassicales; Malvidae.
Phase: 6; Subphase: 4.
Stage: 14.
Culture: Virginia Woolf.
Source: Kenton provings.
Introduction
“The rational marriage”
The theme of the rational marriage, marriage of convenience. On the outside everything looks great, loving, as if it is the perfect couple and marriage. On the inside there is bitterness and distance. But for the outside the couple goes on.
They often had a hard upbringing with emotional belittling and physical beatings, that had to learn them to behave fashionable, perfect, keeping up appearances in all circumstances. They have become hard, impenetrable, impervious as with an armour. They are continuously in the defence or attacking, but always in a polite, cultivated and courteous way.
Mind
Isolated, alone behind walls, fences, protection.
Distance, cover up, < quarrels, < being criticised.
Haughty.
Authoritative.
Left behind in frustration and anger.
Rejected.
Aloof, bored, tolerating.
Sharp, prickly, challenging, teasing, cynical, fighting.
Anger, < being laughed at, haughtiness of others, being violated.
Chaotic.
Aversion: being controlled, authorities.
Discussion
Prover 3: chose the plant because of aversion to capers; parts stayed during trituration; we were isolated, not real contact; no organisation; critical remarks; bit pissed off; Prover 10 went back in order to prevent herself, Prover 9 also staying out; how create contact?
Prover 10 went off; to the garden?
Prover 10: had to protect me; reminded her to a situation she had in her life; hurt by friend or father, later physically hit in/ or by a group; people always hesitate to come into contact with me; felt rejected; fences around us; you feel free but fences become higher; a cage at last.
Prover 15: connection versus disconnection: Vernunft ehe.
Analysis
Brassicales phase 6: want to be loved, but feel a bit neglected
Subphase 4: we pretend marriage is still intact; living in 2 layers; grudge and anger underneath; no open conflict; behave perfect.
Stage 14: 13 or 14? rather 14, giving up, resigning.
Solution: love but what is the problem?
Proving
Maerua cafra, proving
Trituration proving, 4-10-2012, Kenton on sea.
Prover 9 starts triturating.
We talk about our work; “When all the people are extinct, we still have the hand made potencies of plants, and they become very precious”.
Heavy to move, withdrawing, you cannot get hold of it, nearly impossible to scratch the sugar from the pestle. It wants to stay completely by its own, it is like glue.
How much pressure does one need to triturate?
Pain teeth, right mandibula.
We are not a group, distraction all over. Irritated or critical remarks, controlling others, with keeping distance towards the others. Questioning authority and being strict with the rules.
Dutch: uitkafferen, scolding.
Impervious, makes you angry. Fussing, fussy.
Armour, not being able to reach.
Prover 3 continues with the trituration and Prover 2 walks away. Prover 9 and Prover 3 discuss that this happens in a meeting when you question and reflect about each other and somebody walks out, goes away. It creates amazement and irritation.
Prover 10 suffers from it, feels grief in stomach.
We think of the play “Who is afraid of Virginia Woolf?”.
Prover 2 feels attacked, helpless, loneliness, breathless.
Prover 3 still struggles with pieces in the bowl which don’t give in and are hard to deal with, not to be reached.
The atmosphere is not as extreme as Virginia Woolf.
There is a possibility to go away, but it doesn’t solve it.
Neither violence and anger aren’t solving anything in trying to reach each other.
Prover 3 tried it in reaching the impervious attitude of Prover 2. It makes it worse.
It provokes protection for being violated or beaten.
Prover 9 tried not to get involved and staying aloof, but also felt isolated.
The term “The rational marriage” is very much fitting. You try to reach the other person, but it is not possible. Even after meeting each other, the other withdraws.
Prover 3 tries to see what might be further relevant, but Prover 9 just takes it relaxed and waits until something pops up. Prover 3 therefore has a kind of resignation in the fate of not feeling real contact.
During further triturations we tell each other stories about marriage, how it was, a proposal of Prover 9. It was meant as a trial to meet, to share.
Small openings are enough, it takes time to be content with that.
It is Stage 13 or 14.