Nyctanthes arbor-tristis
Remedy code: 3-665.46.16
Woman aged 50.
Single mother, her adolescent children are terribly difficult, swearing, restless, drugs, minor crime. Partner was on alcohol, doesn't want to know anything about the kids. Her childhood was marked by abuse at home, followed by relationships with violence. She does medical work and makes very long days for years, taking care of her children, her own business in the evening.
She calls to say she wants to end her life, in a ‘neat way’, a euthanasia route. Enough is enough, I have already taken care of everything, the sale of the house, documents for her children, what life do I have? My whole life has been nothing but work, got yelling and swearing, no appreciation or attention. The sleeping problems come back, it's all to much now, I can't say no, so make weeks of 70 hours. So how should I set boundaries? I am very easily irritated. I am disappointed. Friends don't call me, my family doesn't help me. It's irritation inside, crying and cursing in the shower, I hardly sleep. I feel guilty, also guilty as mother, my head still pulls through.
I have panic attacks again, like twenty years ago, now also have a compulsive behavior, to control, to clean the house, for administration and for my appearance, there is no relaxation. I do sleep in, but wake up after two hours, and then I start thinking (this problem she had already for years).
I got a coach, for the euthanasia process I want to go into, 'why do you let so much come over you,' it is put on me again! Why talking, I already decided, they want to give me medication but I refused, can you help me to get rest? Mother lies, family falls all over me: you should never have spoken about it, the abuse by her brothers. They are angry for bringing it out. I have always been the black sheep in the family. I am so alone. Why don't things work out, everybody goes on with life. Friends, I only hear the negative things from them, if they are doing well I don't hear anything anymore.
Why am I being used like this! So much negativity, so much jealousy. You get to hear so much shit. There is a lot of insecurity about friendships. The sleeping problems started already the time my ex stopped coming home at night. The insecurity that remains, I'm not that mouthy, all that gossiping, the tension I can build up and then react fiercely. I am always critical of myself. The upbringing remains heavy, the cursing. You are on your own, does anybody care about you? I like nursing, in people's homes, I prefer evening shifts. Insecure, I had an appointment with a man. He was still in contact with his ex, and he was also on drugs, you try to be sweet but it's a knife stabbed in my soul, bad things have been told about me. I am done with it, let the world end. What am I doing wrong, everything in my life, it happens to me. That what I've been through in my youth always comes back again, I'm insecure about how I look, about what I can do. What am I worth, the feeling of always being alone, for what am I living, not being able to rely on anyone.
Analysis:
prominent is that she talks a lot about friendships, disappointment in them, 'not belonging'. Lamiidae theme. Sleeping problems that have been going on for years started when husband stayed away, she felt 'rejected'. Reaction was a lot of brooding. Control compulsion Gold series, theme shadow, being alone, her own business (second job). Wanting to quit, no appreciation Phase 6 or Phase 7.
Years of overwork and not enough sleep, in addition to the fact that her life gives her nothing indeed, life only takes. This is not ‘giving up’ but too much has been asked, she is too tired and she is tired of it. Phase 6.
She is very firm in ideas, steadfast and faithful in her work. Without doubt or restriction always caring, full and obvious accountability, aspects of Phase 4. We search in the Lamiidae, Phase 4, the inability to sleep and incessant thinking is known from the Rubiales. End stage, no appreciation, sleeping problem since partner did not come home Phase 6, stage 16. Obsessions known from Oleaceae. Within this family, a drug placed at stage 16 and also stands out in terms of naming: Nyctantes arbor tristes. Indeed, her life is so much sadness.
Worrying and sleep problems: Rubiales, obsession Oleaceae, abuse and black sheep stage 6. Stage 16: disowned. Qjure: The main problem is a conflict between love and family responsibility.
Family: responsible to children and parents. Conflict love and responsibility, for parenting and financially,
Presciption: Nyctantes arbor tristes C12.
Follow up
After two weeks, she lets me know that she sees life and possibilities again, I'm just still very tired, but I will go on. She sleeps longer now. The next four years continue to go well, now and then we have telephone contact, she doesn't talk about the previous period, ‘I can handle it all’. Sleep is improving. Ozone gave slight improvement, Buxus did nothing.
This case shows a severe emotional crisis where a person gives up with reason, has no more strength or joy to continue both her life and her 'task'. Starting from the characteristics that have been there for years, namely brooding and insomnia, accountability and appreciation as parameters to make a good prescription. Apart from the heaviness, the ‘sadness’ or the dreariness of the situation. Apart from symptoms as listed in the repertories.
The C12 potency was the only available that time, but when the remedy is good, the potency has no importance, that is a fact, as we can see here again.
History
Mandragora officinarum 6 65 7 1.16 (11 yr before, anxiety gone)
Cotyledon umbilicus 6 54 1 0.13 (10 yr before, emotional better)
Strontium carbonicum (8 yr before, emotional and energy better)
Calotropis gigantea 6 65 2 7.10 (6 yr before, severe metrorhagia gone)
Fascicularia bicolor 6 33 4 7.12 (5 yr before, sleeps better for months)
Nyctandra 6 65 4 6.16