665.16.05 Cornus florida, Case
Woman, 45, palpitations.
She has trouble with her daughter. She realises that she is losing control over her daughter and fears losing her. Her daughter is only busy with image and clothes and was also threatening and scolding her. She feels responsible for her daughter, to make sure she finishes her school and will be successful. That creates pressure and the fear that she will be reproached, of not being a good mother.
She feels depressed, especially in the morning, has no energy to stand up and do things. She feels powerless with palpitations; she has an irregular heartbeat going from slow to fast and only wants to lie down. It is worse when she has stress from her job or her daughter. She has vertigo, has to pull herself together to prevent herself from talking nonsense.
Her husband only wanted to watch after her child, he did not work and gave up his study after the marriage. He was very critical. She divorced him because he left all the responsibilities on her; he was messy and left their house full of garbage. He never kept agreements and they still have quarrels. She has suffered a lot after the end of the relationship.
In general she has problems with relationships with men, she doesn’t trust them. She had a tendency to get involves with the wrong ones. She doesn’t feel respected. For a long time she kept going on with those relationships without saying what she wanted. It is difficult for her to say what she wants because she doesn’t have the guts for it. It is difficult to discuss conflicts. She has a strange duality in her mind, on one hand she thinks a woman has to submit to her husband, but on the other hand she thinks men cannot be trusted. She married her husband because he could be a good father; he came from a good family.
She has a bad connection with her father; he had another relationship besides her mother. At 16 she had a big fight. She saw him again at his death bed and felt disgusted. After his death she was angry that he was leaving her with problems.
She has a good relationship with her mother. Her mother always defended her against her father, but she also accused her of having provoked the divorce by all her fighting and by being a difficult. She has the feeling that she wanted to defend her mother. Her family tells her that she is always looking for fights so she has withdrawn. She has a fear that she will not be liked, that others will leave her because she is so fearful. She feels worthless.
Labour of her child was heavy; she had a lot of fear. It ended in a caesarian section, she felt she failed.
She avoids conflicts, never having the courage to say what she wants.
In the past she had migraines, a neuralgia above her right eye and eyebrows, with coldness and nausea, but no vomiting, worse from stress, light and noise.
Dream: being a child in an elevator which is falling down.
Desire: bread, cheese.
Aversion: meat, fish, alcohol.
Plants: strong preferences, -> malva, rose, calendula.
Animals: likes animals, dogs.
Analysis
Phase 1: jumping into a relationship.
Subphase 6, Oxygen, Sulphur: parenting problems; marriage problems; abused.
Cornaceae: duality in her mind; submit to her husband versus going her own way.
Stage 5: difficult to say what she wants; lacks guts; avoiding conflicts.
Stage 5 of the Cornaceae is Cornus florida.
Follow up
She does not come back, but a year later I hear from her sister that she is doing very well. She is energetic, in a good mood and has no anxieties or palpitations anymore. A phone call 3 years later revealed that all the complaints were gone!