Cola nitida
Remedy code: 3-655.31.08
A six-year-old boy with temper tantrums. His mother and grandmother are with him to keep him in check. He has a strong gaze, avoiding eye contact. He is very hyperactive and impulsive, with poor concentration. In class, he often touches other children, hangs around them, and wraps his arms around their necks. He has always been like this: "I say I want it, and then it happens." Other children have to do things his way. Both the child and his mother come across as very vital; they have strong personalities, with open faces and intense eyes. They are probing but unyielding. Neither seems impressed by the constant power struggle between the two of them. When playing rough, he is very aggressive. If someone says "stop," he keeps going. His attitude is, "If I want it, then I want it." His mother has to be very corrective; the holidays, the month of December, were very unsettling. When his mother is more irritable, his behavior is worse. When the atmosphere is good, he is calmer. He sleeps very well. When the TV is on, he sits still. The temper tantrums occur, for example, over brushing his teeth: kicking, hitting, biting, swearing, etc. During the vacation, it happened about every other day. He is the oldest child, the second pregnancy (indicating overlap with the mother), followed by three miscarriages. Both parents have strong wills; the father is more active, while the mother is persistent and determined. The father is a war refugee, coming from an other culture. The pregnancy went well, and the birth was very smooth. As a baby, he didn't sleep a minute; he was so busy in his head. He needs positive reinforcement and has to hear that he’s doing well. Last year, during a sugar-free period, things were manageable. A mosquito bite gives him an allergic reaction, very large, with a swollen cheek and wrist. He occasionally gets colds, and until the age of 4, he was short of breath at night and had ENT issues. He eats well. As for toilet training: there are occasional accidents, related to how he feels. Last month, he had a birthday, it made him lots of singing, asking how many more nights until the big day. In general, he is cheerful. Otherwise, there is anger and frustration; he looks very angry, screams a bit, and spits. Previously, he could panic at night, becoming very upset, unable to explain why. He does well with animals. Things go well at the babysitter’s as long as he gets attention. His mother is in a leadership position; she is a dreamer, and others wonder if she is fully present. If she is restless or rushed, he reacts to it. He does his schoolwork differently, not according to the instructions, perhaps because he finds them too difficult. He doesn’t have much energy when running; he was slow to learn to speak. If you ask him something kind or positive, he will do it.
Analysis
Noteworthy is the boundless energy and intense gaze. He reacts to the atmosphere, and with me, responds remarkably well to nonverbal signals. What he wants to do, whether it’s staking out his territory in the room or trying to escape the authority of his mother and grandmother, with a flash of his eyes, he assesses my face or posture. It’s clear that he immediately understands and acts on what I show. His mother also demonstrates this: her posture and facial expressions speak clearly, while her voice is relatively soft; the compelling nature lies in the intensity of her posture.
Malvales: The sensitivity to atmosphere is particularly known in the Malvales, the "feeling their surroundings," the "reading the room." The sense of touch, here in the form of touching others, is also known in Malvales.
Phase 1: Very impulsive, boundless, "unadapted."
Phase 3: He does pay attention to his mother and grandmother, reads others, is waiting, receptive, and reacts to his mother’s mood.
Kola: The strong, energetic nature is known from Kola. Kola's aggressiveness is not directed at others but more in its recklessness and persistence.
From the Plant Families perspective, the picture was already very clear. Antennae, sensitivity to atmosphere, intention, and nonverbal fits with Malvidae, Silver series5. Impulsiveness fits with Phase 1. His behavior fits with
Stage 8, the forcing. Prescription Cola nitida MK.
Follow up
After four weeks, things are going very well. After just two days, he no longer had temper tantrums. And remarkably: he now talks, he tells things. He asks questions and talks about what he experiences, and plays more independently. The first few weeks went exceptionally well, but in recent days, it has fluctuated. The school is still concerned about his development; they wonder if he is deaf. He is still very much into "touching" other children, to the point of annoyance, and doesn’t know when to stop. But his father has the same tendency; in the beginning, his mother couldn’t stand it. Other children say "he’s bullying," but he’s just trying to make contact, albeit awkwardly. He now sleeps more restlessly; you don’t hear him until 5 a.m., then he starts crying and shouting, "I don’t want to," but he can then jump out of bed and fall back asleep. Comforting helps. It was a relaxed month. In his sleep, he sighs, smacks, snores, etc. He didn’t have any trouble with the flu, and his toilet training is now good. Yesterday, he asked, "I haven’t been punished all month, have I been that good?" He compares himself to other children; some reflection is emerging. At school, he has now been asked three times if he wanted to play. Mother: "When I was a child, it was also 'my will is law,' if they said no, I would throw them in the ditch."
Days with a lot of structure suit him well. After several months, it turns out that he has a developmental delay at school, leading to problematic behavior when he doesn’t understand an assignment, fearing failure. At home: he can explode again; sometimes, it’s "war." He demands a lot of attention. Since Kola worked well, we are now looking for a better-fitting remedy (which I prefer above repeating a remedy). The Malvales theme is still very clear, sensitive, responsive to nonverbal signals, sensitive. The strong self-focus, self-centeredness, along with aggression, is known from Chocolate, which has a lot of overlap with Abroma cacao, also belonging to the Malvales. After taking Chocolate MK, he calms down, no longer loses his temper, and his concentration at school improves. He continues to be mischievous but can now also play on his own in his room, and he gets along better with friends. He is no longer avoided. Kola did a lot, and the characteristics of the Malvales remain, but Chocolate works complementary or has a large overlap.