Woman, 43, work problems.
A 43-year-old woman, melancholic, quiet. She has dark, bottomless eyes. She feels overstimulated, emotional, and has been at home for a few weeks, but nothing is improving. She didn't see it coming, but actually, she had lost interest 10 months ago. Not in her work, nor at home. The summer vacation did not recharge her either. Where she works, there is always a staff shortage; it is too much, the nice colleagues are gone, every day she works with substitutes who know nothing and are paid a lot. You cannot guarantee the quality you have with that. Sigh. She does not want this job anymore, but first she wants to go back to finish it properly, and then look for something else from a position of strength. It makes her feel anxious when she thinks about going back. She had colleagues with problems, she thought she had to save everyone, and she felt drained. She describes herself as the type of person who doesn't have the energy to do it on her own, but in a team, she can shine. Then she can motivate everyone. In recent years, she felt great about herself, and she was happy. She is also on the works council, but she is not allowed to speak; she would like to talk to management. She is more than just a pawn that can be moved around. She cannot cope with stress; she already knew that, it drives her crazy, with time pressure, even if it's just taking the children to school, she becomes explosive. Her mother had that too; it was terrible, she wanted to avoid that for herself. Things went well for a long time. She did the work to get some peace from home, to get some fresh air on her bike. But now, the spark is gone. The silence in the house is wonderful now. She is tired, she sleeps a lot and well. Why should I try my best? They don't like it anyway. At home, she has a busy husband, the family is hectic, he is often away, very busy, and quick-thinking, dominant, she resists, but he takes a lot of energy, the children are exuberant, lively, and busy. They all explode at home. All the care for the children is her job; “you wanted children, so you have to be able to do this.” We've been together for 20 years. He wanted an open relationship, but doing it yourself, that's not for me. She felt comfortable with the situation, but for the past two years, she has had a relationship, and she was able to express herself, which gave her energy, but now the novelty has worn off. She thought she had a better self-image, but now her self-confidence is gone; ‘I can't do this well either’. She doesn't let anyone lecture her, she feels underestimated by everyone, she doesn't get any appreciation, and she deserves open communication. She wants to be able to trust her employer; she has done a lot of extra work and sacrificed a lot of her free time. The exhaustion; is it her age, or is there a B12 problem in her family? After the birth of her child, she stayed at home for three years, in a lot of pain, depressed, finding happiness only in her child. At the time, there was also a lot of stress at work. She went to the union, researched everything, and arranged better conditions for all the staff. She knows she is worth it. She trained as a drama therapist, but she didn't do anything with it. During her internship, she felt too involved and wanted to adopt all the children. She doesn't want to take life too seriously; she doesn't want to work just to sit at home exhausted. She wants to contribute financially, and she would like to have colleagues. At school, she didn't want to study at all; she just wanted to get by, as long as it was fun. She wanted to get away, away from her parents, far away. She lived abroad for a year. “We'll see.” Then she chose a course of study that was only available abroad. Why? Because at home there was a lot of stress, a lot of arguing, her father was often angry, he wasn't a warm father, her mother wasn't emotionally present, their relationship wasn't good, she missed her mother for a long time. Her father was never there. Sad, isn't it? There was a lot of anger, we were pushed, but all the children ended up doing something else. She doesn't want to do that herself, and now she has to push her child at school, and she knows it's counterproductive. She's not the relaxed mother she thought she would be. She doesn't have the energy for the struggle with the children right now. She is bothered by light, especially sunlight. She is running away from things, running away to cope with this life. She does everything for the children, but she is also allowed to go out and enjoy herself. She wanted children, but they had to wait years for them. She pushes the boundaries, sometimes she crosses them, otherwise it's too boring.
Analysis
Phase 5: She wants to be active, do fun things, sparkle, be lively, “I want nice colleagues, to work with people.” Father was often angry, arguing, pushing
Phase 7: Depression, father was often away, and mother was emotionally absent, leaving as a solution, breaking ties. Not receiving appreciation, Phase 6, staying at home, and not being able to move on to Phase 7.
Her work now: driven, action, from Phase 5, crossed the border from Phase 7.
Wanting to leave, phase 5, completely gone, abroad, phase 7. Crossing borders, Phase 7, it's too boring, Phase 5.
We see clear indications for Phase 57.
Series 6: reflection possible on herself and the situation, helping, alone, autonomy.
Series 5: Art, philosophical.
The need for a mother bond, the search for connection (colleagues), and the desire to be heard and seen are familiar from the Lamiales.
This gives us reason enough to look at the Orobanchaceae.
The sensitive eyes fit Euphrasia, Stage 7 fits the continued search for solutions, the desire to help, to collaborate, and teamwork.
Prescription: Euphrasia officinalis C30.
Follow-up
After three weeks, she is calm. This time, she was not as irritable as usual during her period the week before; she was even smiling. She is not working yet, but she is doing fun things, so her circumstances are better. Her left hip has given way again, which happens more often when she is out of balance. This happened for the first time fourteen years ago; she can suddenly give way when walking. Then she has no strength. It started suddenly now, after five years of being gone. She has continued to exercise, which has helped. Last week, I cycled to work, and I encountered a lot of resistance there. She burst into tears when they asked her how she was doing. She felt very stupid and wanted to leave. She has experienced this before, in a difficult situation, a difficult conversation; then she feels, “Oh dear, now I'm going to get angry,” and she has to walk away. She feels that “if this continues, things will go wrong.” When her child was born, she never wanted to cuddle; she developed pelvic problems, couldn't give her much attention because of her hip, and for three years, she was in a lot of physical pain. So much pain that she wanted antidepressants, she was so angry. When she's stressed, she's angry at everyone. When she is frustrated, she wants to escape into things, into wine, alcohol, which is wonderful, or into love. Those extremes, just to be able to stay in her bubble. To not be a mother for a while, now and then, that works well for her. At home, it is stifling, with the children screaming for attention. They used to describe me as the epitome of calm. Emotions are very present in me, such as extreme anger, which has been developed by the children. She is often angry, and she tries to work on that. She used to be very spontaneous, laughing, and she would use a little bit of ecstasy, then she would be happy. She finds it all too much, life, that you are obliged to go along with it, and that quickly becomes too much. Performing under pressure doesn't work for her, such as with a deadline. What she says reveals more of the Phase 5 and Subphase 7 themes. After 8 weeks, she is already working again, and the anger and frustration are less. During this period, I can be light-hearted and cheerful; it's nice to start the day again. The hip pain has not returned. She has stopped drinking alcohol and needs to enjoy the silence, lying in the bath. She is delving deeper into feeling energy. The relationship is still exhausting, and she still has a lot of tasks to do at home. Despite this, her energy levels remain good, and she can cope well with work.